The key to everything
Money makes the world go round. It also makes the world a dirty and polluted place. You can have friends, and you can have your family, but you’d better not get money in between you and them or you’ll lose them all. It’s really sickening how much we allow our greed to rape our relationships.
As you might have guessed, I’m in a thoroughly evil mood right now. I’ve been told by a very close friend of mine [let’s call him A
] that he found out his wife has been cheating him out of money. A
doesn’t want to confront his wife over the issue because A
still wants to preserve the relationship. A told me about this in the evening and I was really saddened to hear this. After all, A
works hard for his money and when he hands over the monthly budget to his wife, he deserves better. How to deal with this problem? I told A
to just confront his wife about this and get it out in the open. Kind-hearted as he is, A
refuses to let this be a option because he doesn’t want to upset or embarrass her. He doesn’t care about the money, but about the trust that was breeched. His feelings were hurt and so were mine. After all, if we can’t trust people so close to us, whom can we trust? Can we absolutely put our trust in anyone at all?
Is there anybody in this world whom we could utterly trust not to screw us one day? Is there anyone with whom money is never an issue? Betrayal hurts at the best of times, but stealing from a loved one is treachery. The entire incident left me feeling very dirty and foul, as if I’d been contaminated with some stink simply by association. I felt sorry for A for being betrayed and also for his wife for not having the moral strength to know better. I hate having to feel sorry for people. Sometimes is better to be a tough bastard and not be moved by anything at all.
I’d like to think that of all the people on this earth, my fiancé, my future wife is someone who’d rather die than betray me. I’m sure we have the kind of understanding and open relationship that will foster this level of trust. I just know that if I were in the same situation as A
, I’d be heartbroken. That kind of trust is not easy to regain.
When I first watched the movie Casino, that Robert de Niro classic, I was struck immediately by the very first lines in the movie. They’ve always stayed with me:“When you love someone, you've gotta trust them. There's no other way. You've got to give them the key to everything that's yours. Otherwise, what's the point?”
I would never want to live my life otherwise and would be crushed if I were forced to.